One issue that occurs with both Western and Eastern sex magick is the polarization of the sexes. This kind of thinking about the sexes can be found in nineteenth century occultism (and even further back), “One calls the forces positive and negative, and one rediscovers them in good and bad, emission and reception, life and death, idea and action, man and woman (positive and negative magnetic poles) in the material plane and, conversely the woman (active pole) and man (negative pole) in the mental plane.” Continue reading
From: vmf[at]acpub[dot]duke[dot]edu (Virginia Fleming)
Subject: Re: Sacred Sex
Date: 19 Mar 1994 01:38:04 GMT
Jim Baranski wrote:
<< The closest thing that I’ve come to “sacred sex” has been…
A: spending long hours lavishing sensual attention on my honey… Yum…
B:A VFOE that happened with my first true “lover” (notice I didn’t say “love”). One morning I was lying in bed *thinking* about her, and ‘humming’ to myself, when-suddenly-it was like she was *really* there, in my mind, in my imagination, making love with me. When I dream, I usually have some control over my dreams, and I know I’m dreaming. In this ‘dream’ it was no longer my dream, and I was no longer in control of it. It was like we were mentally making love, without our bodies getting in the way. Like, Far Out! Too Weird! At the time, she was in another state, and she reported a similar experience.
C:A recollection during a Polarity of when I was a small boy, coming in after playing outside, and lying down next to my dog in the sun, on the linoleum kitchen floor in the warm sun, listening to my mother ironing, and smelling the sun on the dog, and the iron steam… >>
It seems to me that what might link these experiences is a certain ineffable way that sensuality and spirituality have come together. One of the ways I work with my class is to encourage a deep sense of spirituality in things we normally don’t consciously imbue with that quality. So we work with altars–creating a sacred space, decorating it and making it beautiful, and then placing things on those altars that have power in our everyday lives, but that we don’t often make sacred. I recommended my class do an altar for their own physical bodies and they got really creative. Many liked having a sacred place to put vitamins and medicines and lotions and perfumes, and sex toys and birth control stuff. One did a great thing with dressing up a full length mirror with scarves and a hat…
<< For me, ‘sacred sex’ would be doing would make my partner feel really and truly, totally loved, that nothing else in the universe mattered, and that nothing would every change that… What techniques can be used to accomplish this, I have only a few clues… >>
The tried and true method I know of to do this is to treat the beloved as if they were a human embodiment of the divine. How would you treat a lover who was actually the god or goddess? How would you prepare the room, and yourself? What gifts or offerings could you offer this creature who has unimaginable power? Another way to bring this home to yourself would be to imagine that this is the one time you can afford in this lifetime to come to the temple and make your visit to the Goddess–what would you do for/during this life changing experience?
Subject: Re: The Tantra
Date: 28 Apr 1995 20:18:42 GMT
Our Sexually Immature Culture
Our society is full of tease, titillation and men taught to look at women as sex objects. We have no meaningful intimacy education and never will until we drop the false sexual repressiveness of religion used for controlling people and reorient ourselves towards loving sexual fulfilment.
We are not born naturally good at sex and we have little or no training in sexuality other than by hit and miss experimentation. We are largely conditioned by a belief system that often instills guilt, fear, insecurity or shame in our sexuality. We need to take back sexuality and integrate it with our spirits in a way that results in much more love, intimacy and fulfilment than what our culture has taught us. That is the basic teaching of Tantra.
Many couples have terrible sexual relations, since they have never been taught fulfilling sexuality, which doesn’t just come naturally hiding by yourselves in a dark bedroom. Men especially often have no idea how to give maximum pleasure to a women. Real responsible sex education is needed, not Christian repression based on mistranslated or misinterpreted scripture.
New Age Ideas Becoming Popular Again
Many warm, open people are attracted to New Age and Eastern beliefs. Many flee from the anti-sex, anti-body teaching of many Christians but falsely think they have to give up Christianity to be sexually open and fulfilled.
Tantra Teaching Needed
Not Christian Repression Tantra is an example of powerful integration of spirit and body in a positive, uplifting, healing way. Christianity has left it to the pagans to discover the possibilities in these areas while Christians in their blind prudishness and sexual puritanism wander around missing a kind of growth and fulfilment whose potential for spiritual good is incalculable.
Millions of couples have learned through Tantra to more fully share spiritually, have more awareness of themselves and their love for each other as a permanent part of their relationship. For couples who want to enrich their relationship, it can bring harmony between them and increase their sexual pleasure and intimacy. In sum, Tantric sex can create an extraordinary partnership between a couple.
By excluding the Hindu ideas, Tantra can help integrate positive sexuality with Christianity. Tantra teaches positive sexuality and ways of emotional, spiritual and physical communication which is far more meaningful than Christian repression. I uphold the Tantra teachings that can be so easily adopted into a Christian view. Christian Tantra differs from ancient Tantra only in its spiritual definitions, but most of the techniques are the same. Tantra deals with the unity of cosmic consciousness with the psychic energy centers of the body called Chakras, with the goal of self-actualization, personal integration with the universe, with breathing and yoga type meditation to make oneself in harmony with the universe. Christian Tantra communicates God s love for each other and desire to empower each other with love of God, each other and the world through a spiritual communication of the Holy Spirit within us. The specific communication and physical techniques are powerful for both Hindus and Christians.
Sample Of Tantra Techniques
Tantra techniques are specific high touch positions that in modern day science are known to provide positive medical results within the body. Also included are many sexual positions that are much more physically stimulating, especially for women, and convey more love, acceptance as a person and trust than the usual thrusting or usual positions. But much of it is non-genitally oriented and non-intercourse sexuality which few men have experienced but any women find so much more emotionally healing than just sex .
Nurturing positions without sexual contact, to nurture each other by our bodies and spirits communicating acceptance, trust, and harmony between each other.
Exploration and getting to know you techniques very much the same as used by sex surrogates in California (where it is a respected part of professional sex therapy) used to teach being comfortable with our sexuality which does not involve intercourse.
Restoring harmony after a fight or knowing how to reconnect with your partner. Most arguments stem from and escalate out of the fact that one partner is communicating by logic, the other emotionally. This duality is the result of couples speaking two different languages and neither gets what the other is trying to say. The logical partner will remain certain about the rightness of his or her convictions, because they make perfect sense. The emotional partner will continue in his or her position because the truth of feelings cannot be denied. The emotional person doesn’t need to be convinced – in fact, can’t be convinced, because that requires a logical mind and for now the emotional mind is in charge. The emotional partner wants only to be heard, held, and loved: only wants harmony restored. Both partners need to be able to let go, lie down together and practice physical nurturing (not sex), as a means of getting back together and restoring love and harmony even in agreeing to disagree, but trying to understand why each is reacting as they are. Then, no-fault communications needs to be established, both apologize for their part in the disagreement, and affirm their love and their desire to restore harmony by forgiving each other.
Five levels of orgasmic experience for women and how to overcome blocks that get in the way of what God intended to be women s most enjoyable physical experience. The five levels are preorgasmic, sometimes orgasmic, orgasmic, multiple orgasms (the fourth of July fireworks), and extended, or Wave of Bliss level which lasts a long time and can include female ejaculation of nectar of the Goddess (amrita) in Tantra. Sexologists have only recently discovered this, but its been known for centuries in Tantra.
Awakening The Sacred Spot is seldom done by accident but only with a partner, over time, who has been trained to awaken the most powerful possible female sexual organ resulting in whatm many women say is the best of the best orgasm. Again, sexologists are now confirming what has been lost for centuries, but taught as basic ancient Tantra.
These are just some of the many Tantric techniques that should be taught in modern culture. The result would be more love, more emotional and spiritual fulfilment as well as intimacy and positive sexuality that has been falsely repressed far too long.
Brief History of Tantra
Tantra refers to a series of esoteric Hindu books that describe certainsexual rituals and meditations. These ancient Indian books, over two thousand years old, were written in the form of a dialogue between the Hindu god Shiva, who is the penetrating power of focused energy, and his consort, Shakti, who represents the female creative force. The Hindu Tantras enjoyed sexual play and sexual union as an act of joyful celebration, as a demonstration of connectedness, as a symbolic affirmation of the unity inherent in a couple s relationship. The skills are bringing previously unheard of fulfillment to many couples practicing Tantra techniques.
What was amazing to me is that many of the 20th Century sexual discoveries are the same techniques Tantra has taught for 2000 years. For example the G-spot is nothing more than the Sacred Spot of Tantra and the newest CAT (Clitoral Alignment Technique) is also this old. But with our society s sexual repression, it has taken us much longer to learn about our sexuality than in ancient days.
Our Desire For Spiritual Partnership In A Significant Relationship The free love days did not result in lasting fulfilling relationships since it was more me centered rather than you uplifting. The AIDS scare has further made lasting relationships more important. Couples today are looking for a commitment from each other, but a special kind of commitment – one that contains spiritual as well as a physical elements and emotional and psychological aspects as well as material ones.
Lets Help Create A We Generation
In biblical times, marriages were prearranged by fathers based on negotiating a marriage price and cultural factors which had nothing to do with the couple loving each other. In the 1940s war romanticized relationships at the same time it tore them apart. Then came the sexual revolution of the sixties and women claiming their right to their own sexual enjoyment of the seventies. The eighties, the post-sexual-revolution era, brought a time of personal freedom of the me generation. Now, as we approach the turning of another century, men and women want to face life together. This may be the start of the we generation, a generation that desires an end to the battle of the sexes and the beginning of a new form of relationship in which partners work together as a team to satisfy needs, uplift one another, and journey together toward personal growth and sexual and spiritual fulfilment.
We Seek A Passionate Partnership
The sparks of passionate love ignite in a new relationship. Passionate love makes your blood almost pulse inside you, makes you glow and you are drawn to each other like a magnet. This love expresses itself sexually; it is so nourishing you can’t get enough of one another.
Love is not necessarily blind, as Shakespeare claimed, but it is an altered state. Physicians tell us that, biochemically, love has many of the same exhilarating effects that amphetamines produce, but love is a natural high. The immune system can be strengthened by love; white blood cells perform better and we feel terrific!
But as time passes, this passionate love often diminishes because passion is an energy that depends on other energy for its survival. When love begins to stagnate, energy is directed elsewhere, sometimes in negative emotions and thoughts, or in work, sports etc. When couples lessen their lovemaking they begin the process of starving their love. Love is nourished by the sexual energy a couple generates. Tantra teaches how to create the spiritual energy of passion needed to sustain it.
A passionate partnership not only needs the nourishment sexual energy provides, it also needs maintenance as well as communications of what each partner needs in order to feel more loved emotionally, spiritually and sexually. This is the power of Tantra, that powerfully teaches techniques to keep the passionate partnership alive and nourished in all three areas of love. True Intimacy: The Sexual Gap Between Men And Women Many woman use the word intimacy to describe what is most important to them sexually. Sexual intimacy is a special kind of closeness, a communication that is deeper than the couple can achieve physically, a sharing that goes beyond material partnership. This profound connection is described by many women as a spiritual connection, or as the feeling of having found ones soulmate. Women relate it to the heart or the soul more than to the brain or the genitals, although when true sexual intimacy does occur, sexual passion is its by- product. When one becomes intimate one becomes passionate, excited, energized and turned on. A women is aroused, stirred deeply and physically.
But when intimacy is missing, when a women doesn’t make that special connection with her partner, she remains unsatisfied at a primal level because the need for intimacy is so deep. When intimacy is missing its hard for many women to feel passionate or to be satisfied sexually. Tantra teaches couples to relate on the deepest intimacy level and maintain that passion.
For most men intimacy conveys something very different – intercourse. But women know this seldom provides real intimacy, much less maximum sexual pleasure. Tantra teaches men how to enjoy deeper levels of intimacy and how to heal and stimulate a women sexually far more than through just intercourse.
The need for intimacy in sex is so basic to women, yet so foreign to most modern men who have never been trained in true intimacy and sex skills. But by nature and physically, women are sexual introverts; they contain their sexuality. Their sexual organs, their most sensitive places, are internal and protected. Women find it hard to speak out about their deepest sexual feelings.
It s far less difficult for men who are more extroverted. Quite simply, sex turns most men on. Sex makes them passionate. Men love sex. Men like women who like sex. They have never been taught or shown any other way; society teaches men sex, sex, sex thru tease and titillation, and then expects them to not fulfill these desires until marriage! Women want a heartfelt experience in love; most men want a glandular one.
Tantra Teaches Couples Sexual Healing
Tantra was designed centuries ago for couples to learn specifically how these differences between the sexes can be used as a positive force in a passionate partnership built on long lasting love and intimacy, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Tantra teaches that the combination of these differences between the sexes can produce a near-alchemical reaction, an ether in which both flourish, in which the garden of your relationship bursts with color and new life and growth, and you and your beloved thrive.
Tantra also teaches shared intimacy for the moment between couples, not lifelong partners but those who want to experience positive intimacy with different partners. The techniques are powerful as long as the man is open to seeking the most for his partner, not just his physical sexual desires. Once the man has experienced this intimacy, typically his view changes and he also no longer just wants physical sex, but realizes the power in deeper intimate loving relationships. This can be either with a life long partner or even a single encounter with a new loving Tantra-aware spirit which can be a powerful positive experience.
The Yoga of Sex But Much More
Although it has gained a reputation for being the yoga of sex , Tantra s sexual element is only a part of its focus, a part of a means to an end. Tantra s goals are more exalted and broader in scope than just being proficient in physical love. The ultimate goal is unity as a couple and with each other s spirits in a highly developed form of communication between partners. Women s Fire Which For Many Has Grown Cold From Abuse Can Be Wonderfully Rekindled Many women today are for the first time in 2000 years becoming independent and demanding their own business, political as well as sexual fulfilment that has been available mostly just to men in the past. During two thousand years of suppression, many women s fires have grown cold. Now suddenly its the New Age and women are supposed to be more involved in all these things. Not only are women expected to have fabulous orgasms, they are also supposed to experiencing multiple ones. It s enough to make anyone a little nervous, especially women who don’t feel orgasms easily, or have a negative view of sex.
Men have to be taught how to rekindle the woman s often dormant sexual energy. In ancient days, Tantricas were tutored by teachers in the art of love and sex. Today men and women can learn to teach each other and Tantra can help. They might consider Tantra as a kind of extension course – a class in love and relationship. In this continuing education we guide each other and the experience can be extremely powerful and beneficial to both men and women. For when a woman s fire is rekindled after such a long time, and tended, and fed by her most intimate partner, the benefits to both can be many. But for a woman, especially, the rekindling of dormant sexual fires can lead to startling unexpected sensations.
A woman s sexual awakening can propel her spirituality. Men may practice celibacy and achieve spiritual enlightenment, but women s enlightenment is often charged by her orgasmic nature. Through loving sexual sharing a women activates a powerful sexual/spiritual energy which then releases itself into her physical body and into her psyche, creating the atmosphere for her awakening. Tantra recognizes that when a woman increases her sexual power, she adds to the strength of her spiritual aspect as well.
Brief excerpts were taken from an excellent book Tantra The Art Of Conscious Loving by Charles and Caroline Muir
Dave Hutchison, Liberated Christians, Phoenix Az firstname.lastname@example.org
Promoting Positive, Loving Sexuality / Exposing False Biblical Interpretations
In this article I would like to address the issue of sex and magic. I am quite aware of the fact that this is a loaded subject. It is one of the oldest disciplines in occultism and virtually every magic tradition applies it somewhere down the road. Yet it has always been regarded as the innermost secret discipline. Witches, Shamans, Runesters, Yogis and Magicians of all varieties work with it in one form or another.
To build up, strengthen, direct and aim this powerful energy is an awesome magical tool, as anyone who has ever worked with it knows. Being limited in time and space, but having such a wonderful and eclectic medium to work with, I want to give you a few unbiased ideas on the subject.
No discipline of magic has attracted as much mumbo jumbo or misinformation as sex magic does. Nothing stirs the mind more than the left and right of the so-called middle path quite as vividly. Nothing is more ancient, powerful and misunderstood as Sex magic. Yes, the market on Tantra is booming, as a visit to any occult book shop will show you. Yet well researched, practical introductions into sex magic are virtually non-existent. Male sexist tunnel vision abounds.
One of the reasons being that the general approach towards sexuality and women is steeped in Judeo-Christian hang ups. The most common approach seems to be: “Just lay down and be the altar dear, you are going to love it.” Even such revolutionaries as Aleister Crowley have done very little to improve this. Louis Culling even dares to state in his contemporary work (1971), that a frigid woman is more conductive to sex magic practice than a sensual or, mind you, sexually aggressive one. For this would surely disturb ones concentration on the Great Work. No wonder that there are few women attracted to these kinds of partners! You will always get what you want in magic and the so-called true will does reveal itself in strange ways. Doing some soul searching and clarifying your motives is quite effective.
Now, regarding literature on this subject there is hope. My German friend Fra.: U.D. has written a comprehensive, pragmatic book on sex magic. It’s title is “Secrets of the German Sex Magicians” (Llewellyn) and he told me last weekend that it is available in the States right now. (I hope he will give me some extracts to post them here) It beats everything that has ever been published on the subject. Get it!
Now let me point out, one more time, that magic is a practical science. Merely reading about it or going to a workshop will not get you anywhere.
The multitude of sexual expressions is just as great and manifold as human behaviour in general. Here, like everywhere in Chaos Magic, it is useful to keep in mind that if it works for you, use it! Remember, the real sex magicians, male and female, have always known that and discarded social conditioning and taboos, right along with the do’s and don’ts of dogma. We do magic to liberate ourselves. So if it is possible for one thing to be sacred we logically conclude that everything else can be sacred too.
Auto-, Hetero- and Homosexual expressions are equally valid in sex magic. It is more about expanding ones horizons that about finding a certain “right” way, partner or ritual to do it. The Chaos Magical paradigm kicks right in: Nothing is True, and Everything is Permitted!
The next issue I want to address is the Auto-erotic practice. So let me state this loud and clear: Without auto erotic practice it is impossible to achieve anything in Sex magic! Auto-eroticism is of central importance because it is the ideal practice and playground. It constitutes a powerful technique in itself, and it makes us independent of partners. Especially in the beginning it is much easier to explore, prolong and amplify orgasmic trance states. For this very same reason it is possible to do effective sex magic with a partner who knows nothing about it but working with a partner who is equally trained in this art is ever so much more effective. Most amateurs believe that sexual magic is something that solely happens between partners in a ritual, but in reality the vast majority of sex magical arts are performed auto-erotically.
Regarding the physical aspects of the sexual magical training first thing to consider is that your body is really your temple. And for it to be your ultimate tool and asset it has to be in peak condition. Physical and mental dependencies, be it alcohol, stimulants or even tobacco, will interfere with your ability to develop and direct this tool. I do not want to project a moral attitude on this, or any other subject, but mind, spirit and body are deeply intertwined. And the more you alter your mind from the outside by using drugs of any sort, the harder it gets to focus your will and physical reaction. If you are in a frizzy condition, you will get frizzy results! Here, as in all magic, the borders are fluid. A good training in practical magic will greatly enhance your sexual magic and vice versa.
A lot of physical exercises in sex magic derive from Tantra Yoga. The only point of disagreement appears to be the way of using the orgasm. In particular, the “traditional” Tantra authors seem to cling to the idea that there is only a limited amount of sperm available to men. Therefore this precious substance is carefully guarded, held back and re-assimilated when spent. Western magic does not agree with this belief. Its approach is rather like: the more you spend – the more you get! This applies to male magicians, women have always been pretty much inexhaustible in their orgasmic capacity. What joins both is that the intent in Sex magic is much more result oriented and concrete than in Tantra, where it is mainly transcendental.
The longing for transcendence seems to be inherently natural in human behaviour. Yet being western magicians living in the nineties we know that we have to handle the “real world”, our physical reality first, and then we can move on to the loftier goals.
A good manual for your physical preparation and training is “Stalking the Wild Orgasm” by Christopher Scott Kilham. His work not only includes some excellent yoga exercises, but also gives you some great clues regarding nutrition and aphrodisiacs. When you get going in this direction you will find that it soon penetrates into many other areas of your magical work. You will be in better physical shape, more relaxed, focused and grounded. Magic is a gut level art. We have to remove it from the intellectual stuff. Trust your own experiences. Strive to conduct your magic work from this part of your body where all magic originates – your loins. Have fun!
With fractalic greetings and laughter *Fra.: Apfelmann*